I'm two weeks behind on reading forkni-l digests. This is ordinary, and nothing at all compared to how far behind I am on fkfic-l. The thing is, I've finally learned that I don't need to reply on forkni-l; I can lurk. (No, really, I can! This isn't fkspoilr days. ~g~) But on fkfic-l, I feel very responsible to offer some sort of minimum feedback on every piece I read, no matter what, so I put off reading until I know I can make time for feedback as well. It's a vicious circle, spiraling nastily from an attempt to create a virtuous circle. Letters-of-comment can be infinitely frustrating to write in ways acceptable to fandom, but they're also the indispensable fuel for the fire of more stories in an out-of-production fandom. If you don't tell someone you're reading her stories, she may not know anyone is reading her stories, and she may therefore not write any more stories.